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Let’s NOT be friends

I’ve been friends with this person for several years.  I adore this person, we get along great, we can always talk to each other honestly and constructively.  I cannot imagine us not being friends.  But lately, the friendship has been hurting me.  Not because of anything my friend has done, but because of my own expectations.  It’s my own fault, and I know it.  So I think it would be best for me if we simply were no longer friends.

Here’s my dilemma:  I don’t know if that would be the right course of action.  And I don’t know how to go about doing it.  My friend is going through a rough patch personally right now, so I would feel extremely guilty sitting down and having the “let’s not be friends” talk.  So maybe I should just ignore phone calls and emails?  I hate that, seems so passive to me, doesn’t actually let the person know that something is wrong. 

Anyone want to weigh in here, help a girl out?  How do you know it’s time to stop being friends with someone?  And how do you “break up”?