After years of online dating, I have been regularly disappointed by about 90% of the men I’ve come across. I have bitched about it more than a few times on this blog – horrible profiles, crappy pictures, awkward dates, boring men, awful emails, odd phone conversations, kinky sexting, discourteous men…I could go on and on.
As I discussed in my last post (or was it the post before that?), I have avoided free online dating sites. I figured, if men who are paying for a site can’t put forth the effort to write a good profile or email, what can the free sites possibly hold?
Well, evidently they can hold a lot, or at least OkCupid does. I received a few emails (not winks!), and I was immediately impressed by the length and depth (and good grammar and spelling!) of the emails I received. Upon visiting the profiles, I was again impressed, for the same reasons. Long, detailed, well-written profiles. Who woulda thunk it?! In all, I would say about 90% of the profiles I viewed (both men who emailed me and men I found with a search) were awesome. Complete opposite of what I was used to, and a complete surprise.
Were all of them what I was looking for? No, of course not. But I didn’t get any of the creepy emails I was expecting, no propositions for illicit meetings, no scams or freaks. The site wasn’t full of trolls. I was…speechless. I really couldn’t believe it. You mean this free site was actually better than a pay site? How much money have I spent over the years?!