As I mentioned in my last post, I joined OkCupid, mostly because I was impressed by the algorithms and correlations they came up with on their blog. They’re not afraid of being politically incorrect or offending people, because all they’re doing is running the numbers, so to speak, on information that users provide (their latest blog post is titled, “What if there weren’t so many white people?”). They aren’t drawing conclusions, just pointing out trends. And some of the trends are interesting. I highly recommend following the OKTrends blog, whether you’re single or not. I guarantee you’ll find it fascinating, especially if you’re scientifically minded.
So, yes, I signed up for OkCupid, loaded a couple of pictures, filled out the profile, which includes fun pieces like, “I’m really good at…” “The six thing I could never do without…” and “The most private thing I’m willing to admit…(I shower naked).” You give your details, obviously – height, body type (which is far more varied than match, which I appreciate), education level, etc.
Then they have these questions. They’re all user submitted, so the list is growing all the time, and I have no idea how many there are in total. The question is presented, you are given several answers to choose from (you can only choose one), you can choose which answers you’ll accept from your match (you can choose multiple), and then you rate how relevant or important it is that they answer the question the way you want them to. You can also add an explanation.
Q: Are you a vegetarian or a vegan?
A: Yes/No (you can only choose one)
Answers I’ll accept: Yes/No (you can choose one or both)
This question is: Irrelevant/A little important/Somewhat important/Very important/Mandatory (choose one)
Explanation: I tend to eat primarily vegetarian at home, but it’s not a conscious effort.
The questions can be really fun. There are political questions (Is contraception morally wrong? Which is more offensive, book burning or flag burning? To you, is abortion an option in case of an unwanted or accidental pregnancy?), religious questions (How important is religion/God in your life? Would you date an atheist? How do you feel about Scientology?), drug-related questions (Would you date someone if you knew they were a current drug user? Do you think drug use with your partner can be a romantic activity? Would you consider dating someone who grows marijuana for their own personal use?), drinking-related questions (Do you ever feel the need to get really drunk? On average, which best describes how often you GET DRUNK?), dating questions (How much can intelligence turn you on? What’s worse on a first date, no physical attraction or nothing to talk about? Would you ideally like to be married in the next 3 years?), intelligence questions (Which is bigger, the earth or the sun? If the price of an apple was raised 50% and then decreased 50%, making it cost $0.75, how much was the original price? What is next in the series 1, 4, 10, 19, 31…), lifestyle related questions (Are you happy with your life? How often do you tweet? Are you an aspiring actor/artist/writer or other creative type?).
And sex questions. Lots of sex questions. Do you enjoy meaningless sex? Would you consider performing anilingus on a partner who asked you to? Would you consider meeting 2 people online, then arranging a threesome? Do you enjoy giving oral sex? Would you be disappointed if your significant other doesn’t want to receive oral sex ever? Would you allow your partner to kiss you after performing oral sex on you? Is your ideal sex rough or gentle?
And my all-time favorite question: Do you know what sperm tastes like?
Here’s the interesting part. As I said, you can answer what you want, when you want. But, based on your answers, they do a personality profile, measured against the average of your demographic. “You might be…more/less conventionally moral. More/less old-fashioned. More/less compassionate. More/less kind. More/less independent. More/less spiritual. More/less sex driven. More/less kinky.” And, as you might imagine, if you don’t answer the sex questions, they rank you as less kinky and less sex-driven. But what if that’s not the case?
You can answer the questions privately. Although, some of those questions I’m still not going to answer…
Then there are the tests. Over 43,000 tests, actually. Your Sesame Street Persona Test. The Director Who Films Your Life Test. The Which LOLCat Are You Test. The How Low Are Your Sex Standards Test. The If You Were a Beer Test (I’m a Guinness – as if there were any doubt).
It’s fun. It keeps things fresh (says the girl who’s been on there for less than 3 weeks). It’s different. It’s free.
So, what is the quality of men on there?
Stay tuned. 😉